hug a bully

I was working on something else entirely. In fact, it is mostly done. However, you do not get to read it today. Maybe tomorrow.

I have decided to say something instead. Take it or trash it. Your choice.

Bullies come in all forms, shapes, and sizes. The worst kind in the adult world are probably bullies of words.

They can be very hard to recognise. They probably get away with bullying far more often than physical and psychological bullies.

They are the ones who speak or write in a lofty manner. It is not uncommon for them to use these words incorrectly. They will also pick apart those they perceive as a threat or in opposition to them.

Often, they are fighting their very allies.Yet, they cannot really have allies, because bullies want to be on top by themselves.

They will use a typo as a means to belittle you.

They will deny the truth of their own statements when they are quoted by others if they think it dismantles their dominance.

They will privately contact you and tell you how wrong and horrible you are. Often in an abnormally aggressive, rude, and demeaning manner. Then, they will state in front of everyone how you misunderstood what they said or wrote and condescendingly explain your inferior thinking.

On the surface, it appears there is no point confronting such contradictory, contrarian, circular people. They constantly shift their stance, they usually pick few targets. Usually, someone will let themselves get sucked in, thinking they are entering a friendly discourse. They will fall for the trap over and over and over. Eventually, these victims look like fools, blowhards, and jerks. It would be easier just to let the bully blather on and congratulate their own brilliance without ever entering the discussion.

These victims often can lose whatever positive outlook they have. Here the bully of words wins. However, sadly, the bullies are the real losers. They can only feel good about themselves and their ideals at the expense of others through misrepresentation, guile, deceit, and the twisting of words, their own and that of others.

They often destroy the very thing they are trying to control.

How did they become that way? How do you stop them?

I am no research scientist, nor do I play one on television, but maybe, just maybe, they just were not hugged enough by their moms.

So, hug a bully. At best they may lighten up and not be such dicks. At worst they may try to deck you. (Probably not though as they pick on others not with fists but words.) Most likely, you will just confuse the hell out of them and they will think you are crazy and should not mess with you.

Whatever works I guess. I will have to put on my hugging shirt really soon..... blbbl